How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean I first read this book a couple of years ago when I was working on ways to be a better team leader. At Church Fuel, we’re a small team. And to be honest, I’m not a great manager. The thought of hiring someone else to do all the management was attractive, but not realistic. So for us to keep growing, I was going to have to get better at managing people, including products, tasks, and expectations. A friend recommended this book. And I’m glad they did. Right off the bat, it put me in my place. Management was my job. And I needed to be more comfortable with being the boss. I needed to learn how to give guidance in the form of feedback. I needed to own the responsibility to develop our team. And I needed to focus on the results. Pastors need to do this too. There are parts of your job where embracing the role of boss would help your church stay on mission. As you read these notes and watch the ministry insight video, it’s helpful to think of the kind of boss you want to be. But also let the author push you a little to embrace the two sides of the coin.